近日，“生日回避型人格”登上了微博热搜，引发了广泛的讨论和共鸣。
并非所有人都热爱过生日，很多人甚至从未因此激动过，生日对他们而言就如同往常一样，并没有任何稀奇之处。
Not everyone is excited about birthdays. There are many people out there who never feel excited about it. They find the day as normal as any other day. Nothing in their routine changes in the name of celebration. They do not want to get or feel pampered. Going to office, wrestling with the crowd of public transport, having lunch in the decided duration, everything goes with the normal routine.
图源：微博
网友们的反响非常热烈：
“太准了，这就是我！”
“终于有一个词准确地描述了我的感受！”
“我不仅回避生日，还回避恋爱和工作。”
“既害怕被人忘记，又害怕被人记住。”
这种情绪也被称作“生日忧郁（birthday blues）”。
After all, what makes them act so indifferent? Are they devoid of the zeal of life? Do they want to avoid the ‘feel special’ feel? What exactly it is that makes them feel nothing special on the day of their birth.
那么，为什么会那么多人不希望庆祝自己的生日呢？是因为他们不想被特殊对待吗？这篇文章将会告诉你原因。
恐惧衰老和死亡
恐惧衰老是很多人不想过生日的一个重要原因。社交媒体盛行的今天，大家在各种社交媒体上晒出的各种照片和生活动态，也在无形中强调了年轻、美丽的价值，把这些品质作为定义一个人的标准。对衰老的恐惧往往因社会的期望而加剧，人总想在增长一岁时达成新成就。如在 25 岁之前找到一份称心如意的工作，亦或是在 30岁之前结婚。这无疑增加了人们的焦虑和紧张。例如，在著名影视剧《老友记（Friends）》中，瑞秋也不想大家庆祝她的30岁生日, 不允许大家提到和变老、变丑相关的词汇。
This may be common in those who are in their 50’s or late 50’s, 60’s, the 70’s… For some people in this age, life becomes a journey that is going on and on and on at a faster pace. They feel like losing control of their time and every passing year intensifies the fear of dying soon. This is however not good as it stimulates negativity. But some people do so and they can’t help it. Their birthday is nothing more than bad news for them.
图源：《老友记》
我是社恐！ 拒绝成为全场的焦点
对于一些人来说，不喜欢庆祝生日的原因可能非常直接：他们害怕社交。
对于那些较为害羞和内向的人来说，成为众人关注的焦点可能会让他们感到不适。那些敏感度较高的人可能会对过于喧闹的环境感到不舒服。一些人在收到生日礼物、祝福信息或在成为众人关注的焦点时，可能会觉得尴尬。有些人总是希望能控制周围的环境，他们可能不喜欢生日上的惊喜或者是聚会上出现的意外。
Some people do not like to come to the notice of others due to any possible reason on this earth. They just don’t like it. You may feel stunned about this nature but they like to remain as part of the crowd. Birthdays are contrary to this feeling as they bring people in sudden attention. Everyone wants to wish the birthday boy or girl, all are eager to know the plans of the day. But those who do not like all this celebration thing find it nothing but chaos. They prefer to remain silent and follow the normal routine of daily life.
在著名影视剧《生活大爆炸（The Big Bang Theory）》中，作为典型社恐人的谢尔顿也不喜欢过生日，甚至不告诉别人自己的生日。
图源：《生活大爆炸》
预算不够，钱包空空！
庆祝生日通常需要一定的开销，比如购买蛋糕、组织派对、外出就餐等。对于打工一族、学生党而言，这些开销可能成为压力的来源。大家对于生日普遍要隆重庆祝，这可能让经济困难的人感到尤为压抑，因而他们可能选择避免庆祝生日，以减轻财务负担。
Here comes another part of the population that thinks it is a waste of money. Their logic is, Why lose hard-earned money for the pleasure of three to four hours?
They do not understand the logic behind spending on those who do not help you earn. This also includes people who are in debt and have multiple obligations. For instance – mostly a clutter of short-term debts accumulates to act monstrous and they make people restrict their expenses. No guarantor loans, installment loans, credit card dues, or so many obligations work together to suffocate desires.
要是为此感到焦虑，不如试试这几个方法来缓解生日的压力。
Instead of aiming for a perfect day, set realistic expectations for your birthday.
提前思考生日那天要做的事，写下你的期许、展望与担忧。将想法转换成文字能更好地帮助你理清思绪，缓解焦虑。记住这是你的生日，做你自己想做的事。
如果你是一名社恐，那么大型的生日聚会也许并不适合你。这时你可以考虑在生日当天，只邀请你的家人、亲近的朋友，不必牵涉太多人，与你信任和喜爱的人共度生日，他们可以帮助你应对、甚至让你享受这一天。
长大后的时间总是短暂，把时间用在自己喜欢的安排上，有时候也是珍惜时间的做法。比如和好朋友吃一顿饭，一起看一部喜欢的电影，或者在家里度过安静的一天。
所以，无论是怎样过生日，都希望屏幕前的你，不仅是生日有意义，是这个年岁的每一天都有意义。
图源：《老友记》
编辑：李雪晴
实习编辑：李涵萌
实习生：魏家铧
综合来源：澎湃新闻 外研社Unipus
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