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今天在 #休闲娱乐 栏目中，我们来聊聊“爱情”，不对，我们来聊聊“和对的人一起谈恋爱有多么爽” Let's talk about love, no, dating with the right person in today’s program.
What are the differences between love and like?爱情和恋爱有啥区别？
大概“我懂你”胜过千言万语，倾听对方的需求、尊重对方并站在对方的立场思考问题，碰到问题一起解决，一起成长，相互成就才是两性关系的秘诀。
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together. （Robert Dodds）婚姻的目的不是要思想一致，而是要共同思考。
课程内容
同学留言说：“乃夫老师，学生想迈出第一步去追喜欢的人，可是周围的同学都说，先认真的人就输了。现在很害怕对方不在意我的情感，但也不想就此错过。”
如果你是情感咨询师，你怎么回答呢？
（5分钟的两性关系专家的英文视频）
我们看看能学到什么
1.Men's brains are unique. Men's brains are made of little boxes.
男人的大脑是独一无二的。男人的大脑是由小盒子组成的。
2.The rule is the box doesn't touch each other.
规矩是盒子不能碰对方。
3.Women's brains are very very different from men's brains. Women's brains are made of a big ball of wires. And everything is connected with everything.
女人的大脑和男人的非常不同。女人的大脑是由一大团电线组成的。万物相互联系。
4.Women's brains are driven by energy that we call emotion. That's the reason why women tend to remember everything. So, women tend to care about everything.
女性的大脑是由我们称之为情感的能量所驱动的。这就是为什么女人倾向于记住一切的原因。所以，女人倾向于关心一切。
5.Men have a box in our brains that women are not aware of. This particular box has nothing in it. In fact we call it the nothing box. And the nothing box is our favorite box.
男人的大脑里有一个盒子，女人却没有意识到。这个盒子里什么都没有。事实上，我们称它为“放空盒”。“放空盒”是我们最喜欢的盒子。
6.A study conducted by University of Pennsylvania discovers that men have the ability to think about absolutely nothing but still breathe.
宾夕法尼亚大学进行的一项研究发现，男人有一种能力，可以什么都不思考，但仍能呼吸。
课程笔记
重点词汇
1.unique adj. being the only one of its kind 唯一的；独一无二的（2019年全国卷1卷高考阅读理解C篇29题，unique = vary from person to person）
2.connect v. A to/with B | ~ A and B to join together two or more things; to be joined together （使）连接；联结 （2019年全国2卷高考阅读理解D篇33题）
3.be driven by：be forced by to force sb to act in a particular way 迫使；驱使
4.emotion n. a strong feeling such as love, fear or anger; the part of a person's character that consists of feelings 强烈的感情；激情；情感；情绪
5.tend to v. to be likely to do sth or to happen in a particular way because this is what often or usually happens 往往会；常常就
6.care v. to feel that sth is important and worth worrying about 关注；在意；担忧
7.be aware of knowing or realizing sth 知道；意识到；明白
8.favorite adj. liked more than others of the same kind 特别受喜爱的
9.conduct v. to organize and/or do a particular activity 组织；安排；实施；执行=perform=carry out
口语转化表达
1.女方时常抱怨男方没有倾听她的需求，“左耳进，右耳出”，“把我的话当耳旁风”，“你到底有没有再听我讲话”——“他不在乎我”
睿智男士的做法是：Shut up！闭嘴。因为闭嘴是男性最大的人生智慧。
除了闭嘴，你还可以这样：
1）保持甜蜜，哄哄她。Being sweet！Coax her！
Honey, you know, we actually have different brains. That means we are different. I learn from a lecture that women are driven by emotion because your brain is made of a ball of wires. Everything is connected with everything. But men are stupid, you know, men's brains are made of little boxes, and the rule is they never touch each other. What's worse, men have the ability to think about absolutely nothing but still breathe. That's my favorite box ——nothing box. So, let me enjoy my nothing box for a while, Okay?
But you know, you mean the whole world to me! I mean it! I'm serious. （Hug her and try to kiss her and coax her till she laughs.)
达令，你晓得不，我们有不一样的大脑。因此我们不一样。我从一堂课上了解到女人受情感驱使是因为女性的大脑是由一团电线组成的。万物相互连接。但男人是愚蠢的，男人的大脑是由小盒子组成的，规则是这些盒子永远不要碰对方。更糟糕的是，男人有时候会“放空”，但是仍然保持呼吸。这是我最喜欢的盒子——“放空盒子”。让我好好享受一下我的“放空盒子”，好吗? 但你知道吗，你对我来说就是我的全部！我是认真的！我真的是认真的。(拥抱她，吻她，哄她笑。)
2）哄不好怎么办？What if it doesn't work？
Well, it happens. So, take my advice: confess to her that you're wrong, and keep smiling. 这种情况也时常出现，我在书上看到有种解决办法：向对方道歉，保持微笑。
Patience is a superpower。
等女方情绪稳定后说，I was enjoying my nothing box. I was sorry.
其实相互理解对方的不同才是对话沟通的基础。
If the wife ain't happy, nobody is happy. （如果女性/妻子/母亲不开心，全家人都不开心。）Happy wife, happy life. 女性是全家的灵魂所在。
最后，我们来总结下今天的内容，我们从和对的人谈恋爱入手，试图从what层面深入到why的层面发现：Men and women have different brain patterns. 然后，我们通过一个幽默的两性专家的讲座学会了不少有趣的表达，并尝试在处理两性关系上找到一些可能的解决方案，但是方法也因人而异。我们下一期再见！
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