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“小朋友，你是否有很多问号？”
生活中，有很多“？”的可不只是小朋友
而且有些“？”真的很不可爱！
难受的是有些问题不得不回答
下面是一些专家学者给出的一些小技巧
来帮助你“躲过”这些问号
BGM：Say So by Doja Cat
1.Answer part of the question 回答问题的一部分
“I appreciate that this is of interest, right now.”
“我很感激你现在对这个很感兴趣。”
If you don’t want to answer the entire question, find a part that you can address.
You can say, “I appreciate that this is of interest, right now.” And then briefly answering part of the question may be enough to assuage and satisfy them.
如果你不想回答整个问题，那就找一个你能回答的部分。你可以说：“我很感激你现在对这个很感兴趣。”然后简短地回答一部分问题可能就足以安抚和满足他们了。
entire /ɪnˈtaɪə/ 全部的；整个的
appreciate /əˈpri:ʃieɪt/ 感激；欣赏
be of interest 感兴趣
assuage /əˈsweɪdʒ/ 平息；使安静
2.Postpone your answer 推迟你的回答
“That is an important question and I want to make sure I give you the best and most complete answer I can. So, I'll need some time to get back to you.”
“这是一个很重要的问题，我想确保我能给你最好、最完整的答案。所以，我需要一段时间再给你答复。”
Another technique is to claim you do not have sufficient information to responsibly provide ananswer. Buy yourself some time by saying, “That is an important question and I want to make sure I give you the best and most complete answer I can. So, I'll need some time to get back to you.”
另一个技巧是，声称你没有足够的信息来负责地提供回答。你可以这样说来为自己争取一些时间：“这是一个很重要的问题，我想确保我能给你最好、最完整的答案。所以，我需要一段时间再给你答复。”
postpone /pəˈspəʊn/ 使延期，延缓
technique /tekˈni:k/ 技巧
sufficient /səˈfɪʃnt/ 足够的；充足的
3.Turn around the pronoun 转换代词
“It’s interesting that you think that, and why is this question of interest to you?”
“你这样想很有趣，那你为什么会对这个问题感兴趣？”
The difference between giving a good answer and a better answer could simply be your use of pronouns. You can focus on other people. For example, you can say, “It’s interesting that you think that, and why is this question of interest to you?” Changing “I” to “you” can take the focus off of you.
给出一个好的回答和一个更好的回答之间的区别可能只是你使用代词的不同。你可以“关注他人”，例如，你可以说，“你这样想很有趣，那你为什么会对这个问题感兴趣？”把“我”’换成“你”会把注意力从你身上分散开。
pronoun /ˈprəʊnaʊn/ 代词
take off /teik ɒf/ 使...离开
4.Divert the question 转移的问题
“What I think you really want to know is…”
“我认为你真正想知道的是……”
You can also resolve the situation by diverting to a different topic, says Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, author of Think Like a Negotiator: 50 Ways to Create Win-Win Results by Understanding the Pitfalls to Avoid. “Say, ‘What I think you really want to know is…’” she says.
你也可以通过转移话题来解决问题，”《像谈判者一样思考:通过理解要避免的陷阱来创造双赢的50种方法》一书的作者Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez提到：“你可以说，‘我认为你真正想知道的是……”
divert /daɪˈvɜ:t/ 使转移
resolve /rɪˈzɒlv/ 使消释；使分解
negotiator /nɪˈgəʊʃieɪtə/ 磋商者；交涉者
pitfall /'pɪtfɔ:l/ 陷阱
5.Give the asker some control 给请求者一些控制权
“I understand you’re frustrated. Would it be helpful if I shared someinformation about that?”
“我知道你很沮丧。如果我能分享一些相关信息会有帮助吗？”
Tough questions tend to be emotional. Give the other person control over the conversation. You can say, “I understand you’re frustrated. Would it be helpful if I shared some information about that?” This gives the person control over the conversation, and he or she will automatically calm down.
棘手的问题往往是情绪化的。让对方控制谈话，你可以说，“我知道你很沮丧。如果我能分享一些相关信息会有帮助吗？”这会让对方控制谈话，他或她会自然平静下来。
frustrated /frʌˈstreɪtɪd/ 挫败的，失意的
automatically /ˌɔ:tə'mætɪklɪ/ 无意识地；不自觉地
如果遇到那些特别顽固的“？”
这些方法可能只能暂时帮你缓解一下
那么，如果遇到这种问号
——
你会怎么应对呢？
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