一个男人瘫倒在书桌前，绝望地盯着钟表；一个面无表情的女孩，盯着一口永不沸腾的锅；一个官员盯着不会响的电话……A man slumped at his desk,gazing desperately at the clock; a young girl watching a pot that never boils; a official staring at a phone that doesn't ring.这是苏斯博士（Dr. Seuss）在《哦，你将要去的地方！》（Oh,the Places You'll Go！）一书中的场景。
他描述的“等待之地”，那里满是“只知等候”的人。It is The Waiting Place,as illustrated in Dr Seuss's book.Here's people'just waiting'.他们等待一切：等待火车、公交车、飞机；等待天气变化；等待鱼儿上钩；等待头发长长。They are waiting for everything:for trains,buses and planes;for changes in the weather;for fish to bite,for hair to grow.人们暂停生活，直到他们得到自己所等待的东西，看起来很悲惨。They put their life on hold,until they have received what they are waiting for. They all look so miserable.我们每个人有时也会陷入“等待之地”：等到我们有心情了，感到自信了，等到时机成熟，才开始去做那些对我们真正重要的事，这很正常。
We all get trapped in The Waiting Place at times:waiting until we're in the mood,or we feel confident,or the time is right,before we start doing what really matters to us.And that's only natural. 这个时候苛责自己是没有用的，只会让自己更痛苦。那倒不如看看是什么困住了我们？Beating ourselves up about it doesn't help.That would just make us even more stuck and miserable. The most important thing is to know what's keeping us there?答案是：FEAR.FEAR是一个缩写。
The answer is :FEAR,here's an acronym that stand for:
F-FusionE- Excessive goalsA-Avoidance discomfortR-Remoteness from values让我们看一看这个问题：F：fusion,与借口融合大脑很善于制造借口，常见的借口包括完美主义、自我批判、预测最坏情况、告诉自己“我做不到”。如果不远离这些借口，就会与其融合，它们会变成重大障碍，自证预言。E：excessive goals,过高的目标 你现有的资源能支撑什么样的目标？问问自己“这个目标是不是太高？”“我是不是想做的太多，太心急了？”A：avoidance of discomfort 回避不适 如果你不愿意给不适感空间，那么你就只能被困在等待之地。所以问问自己“我在回避哪些想法和感受？”“什么样的不适让我陷入挣扎？”R：remoteness from values,远离价值观你为什么踏出舒适区，去做一些很可能带来不适想法和感受的事情呢？这个动力是价值观，所以理清你的价值观。恐惧(FEAR)的解药是勇敢（DARE）,明天我们掌握如何摆脱困境？